Losing Murphy: A Story of Setting Loose Your Losses

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This is a touching story of how I lost my best companion. Murphy and I had a strong connection that science could not explain. Since his introduction into the house we developed a special bond valuable than riches and rubies. In my childhood, I did not have access to television or internet. Murphy was all I had.

There is a time to be born and a time to die. The death of Murphy came suddenly at a critical moment of my life. Since then, I have lost many closed associates, friends and family but none can be compared to the massive loss of Murphy boy. Since his demise, I have found it difficult to pen his memories because it throws me off every time. I had to loose myself from all those hurts, pain, emotional blankness, anger and bitterness. I had to loose Murphy.

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10 Things We Can All Do That Doesn’t Hurt

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The health of a nation is the wealth of nation.  It is not just physical health but our mental and moral health. There are things which cost little but go a long way to increasing our commonwealth. This has to do with our individual values and how we relate with one another. Check out these ten little things you can start doing that cost little and doesn’t hurt;

  1. It doesn’t hurt to admit you are wrong, it frees the mind to learn
  2. It doesn’t hurt to live a principled life. Enough of the mess already
  3. It doesn’t hurt to give 110% effort. The extra is stuff of the extraordinary
  4. It doesn’t hurt to complement and compliment others, it is worthwhile investment
  5. It doesn’t hurt to live within your means, that’s no 1 key to financial success
  6. It doesn’t hurt to be always set a good example, that’s your legacy
  7. It doesn’t hurt to say the truth; the truth sets you free
  8. It doesn’t hurt to take responsibility, that’s the first step to becoming a leader
  9. It doesn’t hurt to duck your pride, pride goes before fall
  10. It doesn’t hurt to help the sick and the needy, you are the real MVP.

Where Do You Stand

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I stand for equality
I stand for justice
I stand for righteousness
I stand for education
I stand for freedom
I stand for transparency
I stand for governance
I stand for good hygiene
I stand for food for all
I stand for water for all
I stand for power for all
I stand for shelter for all

Where do you stand?

We Will Not Be Shaken

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We will not be shaken by incessant prejudice and recurrent malignancy

We will not be shaken by irrelevant pressure to do be relevant

We will not be shaken by unpopular ideas that craves public attention

We will not be shaken by evil pronunciation against us, it shall fail

We shall not be shaken by those who lost hope in us, we will bounce back

We shall not be shaken by hidden motives and impulsive malpractice

We will not be shaken by the opinions of others

We will not be shaken by the false voice of the majority

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Dear Future Me

You have work to do, so do it
You are going to get hurt but forgive
You will be talked about but ignore
You will be misunderstood but press on
You will be attacked but you will prevail
You will be rich but stay humble
You may be discouraged but you can’t quit
You may lack but don’t steal
You may be disrespected but you can’t lose your honor
You may lose friends but the end is better
Keep doing good, you will not lose your reward

The Script and the Play

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On a hill far away stood my rescue team!

I am being caged in a makeshift hole where I took temporary residence as a result of a civil war unrest in my town. I struggled with malnutrition, pain, physical injuries and untold darkness. My life is missing from reality and reality is shifted from my life. It seems I had no control, writhing in my pain, I lost all hope. I heard there is a rescue team, it was all a rumor, and my day never met the savior. I want to believe a lie to lift my spirit but all I hear is the sound of war and the resulting casualties. My city is destroyed, my mind is distraught and my hope is dead. No tales by the moonlight, no soccer, no more amusement, no more happiness. I dreamt the end but I went through hell.  May be, there is a life after death, this is looking like death after life and seems I am running someone else’s script.

My loss was my all but my all is gone. I never stood a chance, and see my very existence zapped from me. But on the very day I was going to bid time the longest bye, I became woken. I took to conference my faculty and my heart. I spoke to myself, “there is no fancy way to die, but I can create my own fantasy”.  I am crippled with fear, wounded in body, and sullen in feelings but all I am doing is fulfilling another man’s script. I can write my own script and be the main act. Be it as it may, re-write defeated by uncontrollable circumstances but redirected by the will of my power and exertion of strength. By this very act, I survived till the rescue team came. This is the game changer! You are the script and the play. The real defeat is not what happens to us but what happens within us.

Tapping into the Power of Compliment

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As a manager, a good compliment to your team might just save your best employees from going to the competition. As parent a real compliment can help reinforce positive behaviors in your kids. A fine compliment can help mend a broken relationship and restore hope. A true compliment to a neighbor or colleague can improve a sense of belongingness and acceptance. A timely compliment can inspire great things in others. A sincere compliment can uplift spirits and empower lost souls. A good compliment is not pride, is not flirtatious, is not artificial and it is not far-reaching for anything than admiring good traits and qualities in the other person.

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The Future Belongs to the Fast

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Where are we? My niece once asked me when driving across town to visit a relative. I looked bemused. Didn’t I tell you we are going to see a family relative and it’s a 2 hours drive. Why is she asking where are we? I replied we are in Jupiter. We live through life and forget that we are traveling across ages. Life is fast and fast is life. We are experiencing an explosion of knowledge, technology, complex social challenges and weather climate change. There are more changes in this era than all the previous era combined (the stone age, machine age, industrial revolution, modern and post-modern). I am not sure what to call the present. There is no present anymore, it is the future.

The change we are talking about is not a new change, but this rate of change is speeding up.  The world is changing at accelerated change. Transportation, telecommunications, housing, schooling, government, media, and enterprise…. everything is changing too soon. Can you picture what your current career was like in ten years ago, do you notice any changes? Now expect triple the changes in the next ten years. Are you ready for it or you are just there waiting for retirement? Unexpectedly, folks get laid-off while just waiting. In this new world order, you don’t sit there and just wait, even waiters and waitress have mobility. Nokia, the biggest telephone company in the world in the 90’s was caught off-guard by just waiting. They did nothing wrong but before countdown to sunrise they were out of business in the new millenium.  (more…)